Christine Schewe • March 5, 2026

Build a Hive: Community-First Networking for Growth

Show Notes: Inside the 90™ Episode #34

Networking gets a bad reputation because most people practice it badly.


On this episode of Inside the 90, fractional community builder Cam Lawson joined the show to talk about what actually separates a real relationship from a business card exchange.


Find Your Hive, and Know Who the Queen Bees Are


Before networking anywhere, know which community you're actually trying to build relationships inside of.


The framework comes from the idea of bees in a hive — a community built around a shared purpose, with certain people acting as queen bees: trusted, connected, and known throughout it.


The fastest way to build real relationships in any hive is to become a bee in it, not just observe from outside.


Once the right hive is clear, the real work is building strong relationships with the people already trusted inside it.


Be a Go-Giver, Not a Go-Getter


Walk into every conversation looking for what you can do for the other person, not what they can do for you.


Skip the fifty surface-level conversations at a big event in favor of two or three real ones. Get to know people, then find a genuine way to help — an introduction, a connection, a specific need met.


People remember follow-through far more than they remember a pitch, and that memory is what eventually brings business back around.


Vibrant Beats Smart


Networking works best when it stops being a strategy and starts being just you.


The most effective networkers lead with authenticity over performance. People respond to energy and presence, not a polished pitch.


That means folding real interests — golf, hiking, time on the water — into networking rather than compartmentalizing "networking time" away from actual life.


If you're smart, you can open a few doors of opportunity. If you're brilliant, you can open a few more. But if you're vibrant, the doors will open for you.


Going wide before going deep matters too. Meeting a high volume of people early — even ten coffees a week in the beginning — makes it possible to later narrow down to the tribe worth real time.


LinkedIn Relationships Live in the Comments, Not the Inbox


The fastest way to kill a LinkedIn connection is an automated pitch thirty seconds after connecting.


      Comment first. Add value on someone's posts before ever sliding into their inbox.

      Keep the message human. Automation can handle outreach logistics, but the actual words have to come from a person.

      Match the tool to the goal. Automated outreach can make sense when chasing volume, but a relationship-based business built on one new client a quarter usually shouldn't use it.


The posts that perform best mix interesting, personal, and belief-driven content. Professional pitches only land once someone already knows, likes, and trusts the person behind them.


As more online content becomes automated, real human connection becomes more valuable, not less.


In-Person Networking: Quality Over Quantity


Two real conversations beat thirteen business cards every time.


Walk into any event with the goal of having two meaningful conversations, not working the entire room.


      Come with real questions. Ask what someone's working toward in the next 12 months that most people don't know about.

      Don't pre-qualify too fast. A quick 10-minute call before committing to coffee builds the relationship without demanding an instant verdict on fit.

      Let a follow-up be the win. If a conversation is worth continuing, exchanging contact info and scheduling a real follow-up is enough. Closing on the spot isn't the goal.


Acting from scarcity — needing this one conversation to turn into business right now — is the fastest way to make someone want to leave the room. Operate from abundance instead.


The Art of the Introduction


A great introduction does half the relationship-building work before the first meeting even happens.


Always ask both parties before making an introduction, even with close friends. Timing might not be right, and both sides deserve the choice.


Add a personal detail or a bit of humor to the handoff. A well-placed inside joke gives two new contacts something easy to open with.


Keep a short bio or intro paragraph ready to send to your network, so anyone introducing you has your own words to work with instead of guessing.


Final Takeaway: Networking Is a Long Game


The consistent thread here is patience — going wide before narrowing down, letting a conversation earn its own follow-up, and building relationships people actually want to keep.


None of it works if the only reason someone is in the room is to get something out of it.


Care first, stay curious, and let the business follow — not the other way around.

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